Make The Brave Choice By Saying “Yes ” Or “No “

Make the brave choice by saying “Yes” or “No”. Living without fear of being judged or rejected at some point is not something we can achieve from one day to the next.

We are afraid of being stigmatized on the basis of our thoughts, rejected for the way we are, and for the choices we make.

There is no worse fear than the one we believe in and we should never forget this. This refers to our limiting attitudes, our insecurities and obsessions.

Freeing ourselves from all this is like removing the skin from an annoying, worn and old snake. Removing fear in favor of courage is without a doubt the best move we can make in our lives.

Whether we believe it or not, the time always comes when we finally say “yes” without fear and “no” without guilt.

In the following article, we invite you to reflect on this idea so that you can train courage and personal growth based on the similarity between how we feel and what we do.

We all live subject to different values ​​and beliefs. For example, our home and family tend to be our primary social network. This limits our choices and personal needs.

• We say or do certain things for fear of possible reactions from others.
• If we choose a particular path, we are afraid of disappointing our parents.
• We are sad if we do not meet the expectations that others have of us.

As we can see, all of these are examples of what many of us have felt at one time or another. These are quite understandable situations that should never occur.

We should never get to this extreme point where we are just serving others while neglecting ourselves.

We suggest taking note of these simple keys to living without fear. This will help us to be more confident and more honest about our inner feelings.

Saying “yes” when I want to say “no”

Why do we do that? Someone asks you to come to their home to help them, to do a project at work or to go on a trip with friends. Even if you do not want to, you say “yes”.

• Sometimes we agree to do something because we are happy for the person. We are afraid of offending people we love and are afraid of neglecting our friendships or offending them by saying “no”.
• We also want to say “yes” when we want to be part of a group. This makes us feel included and not feel rejected.

• This type of behavior leads to helplessness. We stop being ourselves. By saying “yes” all the time, others see us as reliable and without our own needs, which we want to satisfy.

Whether we believe in it or not, a rejection once in a while allows us to maintain a good balance.

Take the step: Say “no” without guilt

We will do a little visualization exercise to describe the great benefit of saying “no”. We will return our time machine to the time in our lives when we acted against our own desires.

In the following, we give you simple examples to follow and understand why it is ok to say “no” without feeling guilty:

• I visualize the day I agreed to do a favor for a particular person.

As I explain my decision, I imagine myself making a rejection with conviction. I’m giving you a no because your request is selfish, because you are not treating me well, and because it’s to your advantage.

• I also visualize one of many moments where my partner asked me, “Will you do me a favor?” I replied: “yes, of course”.

Now I imagine myself to be more rational. I answer that I do not want to and that I fulfill most obligations and most responsibilities. I argue that to be a couple you have to be a team and respect each other.

The need to say “yes” without fear.

Saying “yes” when we need it and want it is a way to create self-validation. Every affirmation that comes directly from your heart helps define who you are to others so they know you better.

• I want to say “yes” to my dreams and goals without fear.
• Many people may not like my “yes”, but I understand this. Those who accept me for who I am, with all my ideas, desires, and decisions, will do so because they respect me and want me to be true to myself.

As of today, I will say “yes” without being afraid and “no” without feeling guilty about maintaining a balance in my life.

Coexisting respects each other as we are.